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The Weight of an Unanswered Letter to the Dead

On traditions of writing to those who have died, and what the practice offers regardless of whether anyone reads it.

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The Weight of an Unanswered Letter to the Dead

Several traditions include a practice of writing to someone who has died: a letter that will never be read by its addressee, composed anyway, sometimes burned, sometimes kept, sometimes read aloud at a grave.

The practice does not depend on a belief that the letter will reach anyone. Its value is located entirely in the writing itself, and in the specific kind of unfinished conversation grief tends to leave behind.

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