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Why the Best Instruction Is Often Withheld Until Asked

On the old rule that teaching waits for a question, and what unsolicited wisdom fails to accomplish.

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By Devika Shastri6 min readpremium
Why the Best Instruction Is Often Withheld Until Asked

Several classical traditions share a rule that looks almost rude from outside: the teacher does not teach until asked, and sometimes not until asked more than once.

The rule is not about the teacher's dignity. It reflects an observation about how teaching lands: instruction delivered before the student has formed the question tends to pass through without effect, because there is nothing yet in the student for the answer to attach to.

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